The Way I Are

I pose a question: Can a person be accidentally racist?
Not by choice would they say or do things that could be racist, but possibly it would come from something embedded in them. Maybe they have a parent who is racist and they inherited it, or from hearing it they have picked it up. Now they would never think or say "I don't like (particular ethnic group)" but they're phrasing suggests otherwise. I have a friend, she is not racist, but she says things that I don't think she realizes could be racist. She doesn't mean to be...mean, but it certainly comes out that way. Once she suggested that rap music was basically the only thing that african americans listen to: like it's their national anthem. She really didn't get it; that was mean. Another time we were watching a show and an african american girl was on it, and she said "she has pretty hair, for a black girl". (She actually meant to say she had pretty hair for it being a weave...but, yeah) And not so far away I saw a girl while I was at work that was wearing all purple and I told my friend about this, later her and I were at a show: we saw purple girl. I pointed her out "Oh my gosh, look theres purple girl," my friend replied, "you didn't tell me she was black." I said "I didn't know it was relevant."
Now I know that she doesn't mean to say these things in a bad or hurtful or stereotypical way, but I can't help but think that this has all been stuck into her unconscious. Her father definitely says things that are stereotypical and racist: he is a really nice guy, but that's just the way he is. So she may have picked it up unknowingly from her father. I am afraid though, that one of these days she'll say something like that to the wrong person and then....well, I don't really want to know. But I believe that it's not her fault; therefor, she is accidentally racist.